"True self-care isn't about salt baths and chocolate cake, it's about choosing to build a life that you don't have to run from on a regular basis" ~ Brianna Wiest
 
So much has been written and said about self-care. And as much as it has been talked about, there are many misconceptions and misinterpretations about what self-care really is.
 
When we talk about self-care, I don't just mean that fluffy love stuff. It's about taking care of yourself, choosing yourself, taking time to find out what your values are. Taking the time to integrate your shadows and work on yourself. Taking the time to understand ourselves so that we can create a reality that feels good to us and that is in harmony with us. 
 
This workbook supports you on your journey to self-care. It shows you 8 concrete steps to take better care of yourself. It also explains how you can live true self-care without neglecting those around you. And it shows you in which areas of your life you still have potential for development. 
 
Use this workbook as a training manual, as inspiration and as a guide for your new life, where you give yourself exactly the space you really deserve. This workbook will inspire you to realise that life is more than the usual daily routine that we all so often get caught up in. It will inspire you to self-reflection as well as personal growth. Finally, it helps you to create a life where your true needs have a place and you realise that you are worthy of being happy and content. 
 
Numerous exercises and profound coaching questions help you to change yourself and your life. If you are short on time, this workbook is just the right start for you to take better care of yourself. It is designed to serve as a foundation on which you can build new routines and beliefs so that transformation can take place on all levels. 
 
True self-care is never selfish or self-centred. Self-care is about taking good care of yourself without becoming an egotist or narcissist. It is about being mindful of yourself and your body and listening to the quiet voice of your soul.
 
But self-care is also about facing your inner demons and keeping the roaring voice of your ego at bay. So self-care is really more than drinking crystal water, taking a bubble bath or going for a massage. It is a work on you and within you that helps you to know and respect yourself better. Because only when you can respect and accept yourself can you also deal with the faults and weaknesses of those around you.
 
 
 
If you allow others to treat you in an abusive way, you will also treat yourself in a certain way. If there are no boundaries, there is no sense of autonomy or individualism. There will be dependencies on each other and on other things.
 
 
 
We set solid boundaries that are out of love, not to exclude other people. But we set boundaries for them, because your energy field and your energy body are important to you.
 
 
 
So I want you to take time and think about the areas of your life where you are not taking care of yourself and loving yourself. Really think about whether there are toxic people in your life that you tolerate because you don't fully love yourself. Think about all the destructive things you allow into your field.
 
 
 
The more you love yourself, the more you take care of yourself, the more you heal yourself and know that you are whole, the more your life and the way people treat you will change. They will treat you better because you treat yourself better. End of story.